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Last November I wrote a blog entry entitled shame. I wrote about how I had become ashamed of myself because I was transgender and not acceptable. How I created a false identity. Six months on I have realised a different perspective It is absolutely true that over the years I had felt ashamed of myself.Continue reading “Shame revisited”

There are elections coming up shortly in the UK so I have been wondering how I should vote. For various reasons I have not been able to cast a vote for over a decade so whatever I thought of the political parties was academic. In that decade I have transitioned and at the same timeContinue reading “Voting”

I have been reading a book “To My Trans Sisters”. A collection of letters edited by Charlie Craggs written by trans women for their sisters. It has been a really affirming read. Eighty five letters from a very varied set of trans women of all ages. I realised how times have changed. Letters from transContinue reading “Resilience”

Sometimes I have no clear idea of what I want to blog about. Today is one of those days. Usually I have some trans related thoughts going on which lead me to a post. In the last week I have been struck how the transition chatter has disappeared, for now at least and who knowsContinue reading “Speaking up”

Following on from my last blog entry I have been thinking about my interactions with people both in business and generally. This has been highlighted this week when I discovered that someone who had let me down last year in relation to a business deal, having strung it along for months assuring me all wasContinue reading “More lies”

Looking back from where I am now, one of the hardest things I have had to come to terms with is that I have been a serial liar. Lying was a way of life because I lied to myself. I lied about my core being. I lived a lie. I built up a whole personaContinue reading “Lies”

I have mentioned before about feeling I should become more active in the transgender movement. I am troubled by the rising transphobia in the press and how transgender people are portrayed. In the same way being an activist has connotations of being someone who attends rallies, shouts and protests maybe having confrontations with the authorities.Continue reading “Being active”

International Day of Women. There is an interesting thought for a trans woman. It should be straightforward. I am a woman. So this must be a day I can celebrate. However to many I am not a woman or as some put it so graphically a “person that menstruates’. Well I wouldn’t anyway as IContinue reading “Toxicity”

I have been reading, dipping into, Trans Britain Our Journey from the Shadows edited by Christine Burns. Apart from the fact I agree with the comment “one of the most interesting books I read this year: Guardian Best Books of 2018” on the front cover, it is a eye opening book. I am a matureContinue reading “Trans Britain”

Internalised transphobia. That is not something I have really thought about or considered. It refers to feelings some people have inside them that might not even be aware of with reference to how some people hate a part of themselves and are ashamed of it. It is that thought inside yourself that tells you “YouContinue reading “Internalised Transphobia”